Positive thoughts are empowering. They make you feel good. Sometimes, however, that’s easier said than done. Negative thoughts have a nasty habit of sinking their teeth into our brains and it can be challenging to fight them.
It is easy to get trapped in a cycle of negative thinking. If you are unhappy with yourself, or the situation or lifestyle you find yourself in, negative thoughts have a tendency to manifest and once you get into the habit of thinking negatively, it can be difficult to break free from it.
For centuries our ancestors battled insurmountable odds and dealt with incredible hardships on their quest to create and build our modern world and they faced a host of terrible circumstances. They learnt to expect the worst and as a result, this way of thinking has been passed down from generation to generation. Our instinct is to search out the negative in a situation so we can deal with that part first. Unfortunately, the negative thoughts linger, which attract more negative thoughts and before you know it the snowball effect has become an avalanche and we become buried beneath a seemingly immovable mountain of unhappy thoughts.
Misery loves company
Nothing comes more naturally when you are feeling down than to feed off the unhappiness of others. What can be a little more challenging, and can take some practice but will ultimately change the way you think, is to rewire your brain. You can achieve this by focusing on the positive; not letting negative thoughts creep into your mind; removing all doubt in your capabilities and consistently keeping up with your progress. Your brain is an incredibly clever organ and will relearn this new way of thinking in no time.
One of the biggest enhancers of negative thinking is stress. Stress does terrible things to our bodies on a physical, mental and emotional level and as we know, these are all effected by each other. Try to remember that situations or events in themselves are not stressful. The way we interpret the situation is what determines the amount of stress we attach to it. Through the power of positive thinking you will be better able to handle situations that at one time may have caused you stress. By thinking positive and empowering thoughts you will attract more positive and empowering thoughts, people and experiences to you.
Open yourself up to vulnerability
Opening yourself up to vulnerability can seem like a daunting prospect. As humans we are taught to be resilient, to not show weakness, to stand strong in the face of adversity. We push our emotions to the side, bottle our feelings up and refuse to show them. This leads to an increase in negative thinking, an overflow of resentment and exhaustion. Understand that allowing yourself to show that hidden side of you is not a weakness, but a strength. You have the ability to learn and grow and that is a remarkable thing. There is a fear that showing your softer side, or opening yourself up to vulnerability will also open you up to misunderstanding, criticism or labelling. That people will think you are different. Different is a good thing!
Start by being honest with yourself. This can be uncomfortable but I promise you, it is worth it. Talk to people, let your guard down. By allowing yourself to be vulnerable you may very well be helping others let go of their insecurities, too.
Find your passion
Find something that makes you happy. Whether it is devouring book after book, or creating delicious cakes or building a paradise of plants in your garden. You might love singing, or writing, or building things from scratch. You don’t have to be good at it either; that’s not what is important. Discover what it is that feeds your soul, what lights the fire in your belly, what makes you excited to begin each day. Try things you’ve never tried before; revisit things you have. Surround yourself with positivity and you can’t help but have positive thoughts.
Be the you that only you can be
Our lives can be difficult at times and it is so easy to lose focus and become lost, to throw away our ambitions and get trapped in a cycle of negative thinking. You are a divine being and you have the power to break that cycle. Change the way you think, surround yourself with positive people, find your passion and make time for yourself to breathe. Now is the time for change, to be the person you are destined to be.