Change can seem like an intimidating thing. We are creatures of habit and it is all too easy to be lulled into a false sense of security. I bet you ask yourself all the time, why bother changing anything when everything is just fine? Let me ask you another question: when did it become acceptable to settle?
Why are we afraid of change?
As a concept, change is a scary thing for a lot of us. Many of us end up making the wrong decisions in our lives because we are so intimidated by the idea of change. We make bad choices that ultimately leave us feeling unhappy or unsatisfied. Why do we do this? Because change is scary. Have you ever wondered … why? Why am I so afraid of change? There are a few reasons for this way of thinking:
- Self doubt. Not trusting yourself, and your gut instincts. That first step can often be the most difficult, and you might find that you talk yourself out of doing something before you can even give it a try. Can I tell you a secret? The only thing worse than doing the wrong thing is not doing anything at all.
- Fear. It is a human condition: we fear what we don’t understand. It is also called a fear of the unknown. We put so much pressure on a future that doesn’t exist, it’s almost ridiculous. Think about it. How much of your time and energy do you invest in thinking about tomorrow, next month, next year; who you will be, what you will do. What about now? To be perfectly honest, you cannot control tomorrow. You have absolutely no control over what will, or will not happen. Life is unpredictable and that is a true blessing.
- Failure. A lot of us don’t like change because we think: what if I make a mistake? What if I’m wrong? What if I fail? I have another question for you:
This life is for living. For making mistakes, for falling down and failing spectacularly. It is the only way to learn. How do we get stronger, smarter, better? By learning. The true test of character is not how badly you fall, but how you pick yourself up. I don’t know about you, but my scars make me interesting.
Ask and you shall receive.
Change begins with you, and the easiest and most obvious changes can be made with the way you ask yourself questions. Our lives are full of questions, some important ones and others that are trivial.
What will I have for breakfast?
What time is that meeting?
What should I do with my life?
Why is life so unfair?
Some are easy to answer, while others require more insight. There will always be dozens of questions, hundreds of choices, thousands of pathways. Now you need to start asking yourself the right questions.
The first step is to stay away from negativity and disempowering thoughts which lead to questions that will bring you down. You need to alter the way you ask yourself questions. Instead of what did I do wrong? which instantly feels negative, ask: what can I do differently? It is not just about modifying your mindset, although that is the first step. Change is about pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Albert Einstein once said: “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Now here are some questions for you:
When was the last time you did something new for the first time?
If not now, then when?
Which is more important to you, doing the right thing or doing things right?
Whose permission do you need to be you?
The power of positive thinking.
Positive thoughts are empowering. They make you feel good. Negative thoughts are disempowering. They make you feel sad and tired and impact all of your energy levels and vibrational frequencies. It is that simple. The reason for this, and once you realise it you will see it everywhere:
Like attracts like.
If you think only negative thoughts, you attract more negative thoughts. However if you think only positive thoughts you will attract more positive thoughts. If you are excited about what tomorrow brings, spend time thinking about all the things you want to achieve in the future and are genuinely comfortable and happy within yourself you will attract positive, enriching experiences. Understanding the power of positive thinking is one of the easiest and most effective ways to embrace the idea of change. It will come naturally.
Change as a concept is a scary thing. Why? Because we believe we have a fear of the unknown; a fear of failure. Those fears are illusions. There is no unknown, as the future doesn’t exist yet and there can only be failure if you learn nothing from your experiences, which is impossible. You know what you need to do, and there is nothing that can get in your way or stop you. You are in control of your energy, you know how to ask yourself the right questions, and you are well on your way to mastering the power of positive thinking.
Be the change that you want to see in your world.